If you can't be there,
someone gentle can.

Tendrest matches your family with a vetted caretaker who lives near the cemetery — to clean the stone, place flowers, and send you photographs of every visit.

Request care See a sample report
Conservation-safe methods only Photo proof the same week Nothing owed until you approve the quote

You moved for work, for family, for life.
The grave stayed.

Cemeteries mow the grass — but the stone, the flowers, and the small acts of remembrance have always belonged to family. When family lives three states away, those acts go undone, and the quiet guilt stays. Tendrest is a care service, not a cleaning service: someone gentle stands at that grave on your behalf — and you see it, from anywhere in the world.

How it works

Three steps, one photograph

1

Tell us where they rest

The cemetery, the plot if you know it, and what you'd like done — a cleaning, fresh flowers, a flag for Memorial Day.

2

We match a caretaker nearby

Vetted and trained in conservation-safe stone care. Never bleach, never pressure washing. They confirm a firm quote with you first.

3

You see the visit

Photographs before and after, with a note from your caretaker — in your inbox the same week.

Care we arrange

From a gentle wash to a full restoration

Maintenance cleaning

Moss, lichen, and grime lifted with soft brushes and stone-safe solution. The plot tidied around the stone.

Typically $75–150

Deep cleaning

For stones untended for decades — heavy growth and mineral buildup removed over one or more careful visits.

Typically $150–300

Lettering renewal

Faded inscriptions carefully re-darkened so a name can be read again, where the stone type allows.

Typically $150–400

Flower placement

Fresh or silk flowers placed at the grave — for a birthday, a holiday, or simply because — with a photo each time.

From $45 per visit

Gravesite check & photos

A caretaker visits, tidies the site, and sends a written condition report with photographs.

Typically $40–60

Restoration referral

Leaning, sunken, or damaged monuments assessed and referred to qualified restorers, with our coordination throughout.

Quoted individually
The photo report

No visit is complete until you've seen it

Every visit ends with a report: photographs from the same position, before and after, and a few words from the person who was there. Families forward them, print them, and keep them.

Visit reportSample · Cedar Hill Cemetery
BEFORE
AFTER

"The lilacs by the fence are blooming. I left a few on the stone — I hope that's alright."

M

Marion K. — caretaker at Cedar Hill Cemetery
Illustrative sample. Your report will show your caretaker and your family's stone.

Our commitments

Three things you can hold us to

Proof, always.

No visit is complete until the photo report is in your inbox.

Gentle, always.

Conservation methods only — the stone is treated like the heirloom it is. Never bleach, never pressure washing.

Right, always.

If anything in the report falls short, your caretaker returns free of charge. No questions, every time.

When families call on us

For the days that ask for presence

Memorial Day

A cleaned stone and a flag placed before the last Monday in May.

Qingming

Sweeping and offerings arranged in the tradition, photographed for family abroad.

Día de los Muertos

Marigolds and remembrance placed on the days that matter.

Birthdays & anniversaries

Fresh flowers on the date, every year, without asking twice.

Two ways to begin

Once, or as often as you'd like

Single visit

One visit, one job done well. A good way to see how we work.

  • Any service, one visit
  • Before-and-after photo report
  • No account, no commitment
Request a single visit

Pay the caretaker directly, only after you approve the quote.

Right, always — our make-it-right promise

Look at your photo report. If anything falls short of what was agreed, the caretaker returns and makes it right at no charge — every time, no questions.

What happens next

From your request to your photo report

1
2 minutes

Send your request

The cemetery, the name on the stone, and what you'd like done. That's all we need to begin.

2
Within 1–2 days

Hear from a local caretaker

A vetted caretaker near the cemetery confirms the details and gives you a firm quote. Nothing is owed until you approve it.

3
Within 14 days

The visit takes place

Photos are taken before any work begins. The stone is cleaned with conservation-safe methods; the plot is tidied.

4
Same week

Your photo report arrives

Before-and-after photographs and a note from your caretaker, delivered to your email to keep or share with family.

5
If you wish

Set a seasonal rhythm

Many families continue with visits before Memorial Day, Christmas, or a birthday. Pause or stop anytime.

Worried the cemetery won't allow it? Most cemeteries welcome family-arranged care. Your caretaker checks the grounds' rules and coordinates access where needed — you don't have to call anyone.
Questions families ask

Answered plainly

How do I know the visit really happened?

Every visit is documented with before-and-after photographs taken at the gravesite, sent to your email the same week. If a report ever fails to arrive, the visit isn't considered done.

Is the cleaning safe for old stones?

Yes — caretakers use the conservation approach recommended for historic cemeteries: plain water, soft brushes, and a stone-safe biological solution. Pressure washers, bleach, and wire brushes are never used. Fragile stones are photographed and referred to a restorer instead of being cleaned.

I don't know the exact plot location. Can you still help?

Usually, yes. The name on the stone and the cemetery are enough in most cases — caretakers use cemetery offices and section maps to locate the site, and confirm with a photo before doing any work.

What does it cost?

A standard headstone cleaning typically runs $75–150; flower placement from $45; a seasonal plan from $150 per year. Your caretaker gives a firm quote before anything is scheduled, and you pay nothing until you approve it.

Can you care for more than one grave?

Yes. Family plots and multiple graves in the same cemetery are common requests, and caretakers quote them together — usually at less than the individual prices combined.

What if I'm not satisfied with the result?

Tell us what you see in the photo report and the caretaker returns to make it right at no charge. Care like this only works on trust, and we'd rather lose money on a visit than your confidence.

Free quote

Tell us where they rest. We'll take it from there.

No payment now. A local caretaker will reach out within 1–2 days.